I wholeheartedly believe every mom who is trying her hardest ( to be good mom) is working harder than she ever has on anything in her entire life. However, in our eagerness to share our common ground I think we sometimes say things we shouldn’t . The following list includes that which I DO NOT want to hear from other moms.
A) I never yell at my kids.
First of all, I think you are lying. Second of all, I don’t necessarily yell to get a response as much as to prevent my head from exploding. Which I think would be far more traumatic for my three children than a little yelling.
B) She/he has been sleeping through the night since we got home from the hospital.
know think you are lying. And if you push it too far with telling me how happy you are about it, I’m going to call you at three in the morning. When my reflux baby is screaming to wake the dead and his twin sister. Just to ask you how much you are enjoying your sleep.
C) How your three month old just LOVES to go to daycare.
Ok, but at three months old farting and burping makes babies happy too. So I have a hard time figuring out how the baby let you know that daycare is the source of happiness. Besides I gave up a piece of my sanity to stay home. And you don’t hear me saying my baby appreciates that I stay home.
D) You went back to work because you couldn’t afford not to.
Actually I don’t have a problem with this one in the least. UNLESS you and your husband are driving a Mercedes, Escalade or other luxury vehicle. This in and of itself immediately disqualifies you from ever honestly speaking these words.
E) You went back to work to set a good example for your children, especially your daughter. And in doing so teach her that a woman can have a career too.
And again, I do not have a problem with this one either. And fully intend to re-enter the work force in one capacity or another when my kids are older. With that said I would like to be able to reply to this comment with, “I didn’t go back to work so that I could set a good example for my children. And in doing so show them that having a career and a paycheck comes second to family.”
F) If YOU just ___________ then they WILL _________________.
Fill in the blank with whatever you like. But, no two kids are the same. So, unless you are volunteering to walk in my shoes for the next seven days around the clock don’t tell me what the outcome WILL be with MY kids.
G) I have always wanted twins!
Well then clearly you don’t have any. Because, as much as I absolutely adore all of my children I would have given my right arm to be able to cherish them each individually. As any mother of twins can tell you the first few years is much more than a balancing act. It is a combination of exhaustion and an overwhelming desire to split yourself in two so that you can give both babies everything they need.
So, what MOM topic do you hate to talk about?
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